Many young people are too busy these days to have time for socialising except online going on Twitter or Facebook. Opportunities for human face-to-face interaction and socialising are scarce with the long working hours and long commutes from workplace to home and vice-versa.

As a result there are many singles of both sexes with hardly any opportunities to meet, let alone find a life partner. In days of old, my grandmother used to say that marriages are made in Heaven,
that at the moment of birth, two humans are already tied together with a red string so that no matter where they are, they will end up together as life partners.

These days, those who want to find life partners have several avenues through which they can help themselves. They have the option of dating online,
joining membership sites that match-make their members, or join off-line agencies that arrange meetings, parties and other fun events for singles.

From there it is up to the singles to decide whom they would like to get to know better, whether to meet if they began their friendship online. Going on dates then follows and this may or may not lead to the desired outcome. If it doesn’t then, the whole process begins again.

There are some singles who are disillusioned and are determined to remain single because they maintain that having seen their friends tie the knot only to dissolve it a year later is something they want to avoid.
They are quite happy to remain single, enjoying the occasional partying and casual friendships.

The institution of marriage is not held sacrosanct by many in these modern times. In the past, efforts would be made to salvage the relationship but these days it appears that marriage vows are easily set aside and changing partners is like changing one’s clothes. If a relationship is not to one’s expectations, then the partners want out. The issue seems to be about “self, self and more self”.

Many have opted to live together without that “piece of paper” that would legalise their relationship. The children that come along are unfortunate if their parents do not formalise their union by getting a marriage certificate for they would be considered bastards as they are born out of wedlock and the odds are stacked against them right from the start. I wonder if the adults are aware that they are short-changing their off-spring because of the perversity of the decision not to get that piece of paper.

It is all a matter of choice and the decision ultimately lies with the people involved. The convenience and advantages of being a singleton which could later translate into boredom and loneliness, have to be weighed against being a twosome and its attendant benefits and burdens in the long-term that will include a house echoing with the pitter-patter of little feet and screams for attention which could drive you up the wall.

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