What makes a human being so depraved as to do physically abuse a toddler, one who is totally helpless and remains at the mercy of her caregiver? The maid is a caregiver entrusted with the responsibility of looking after the two young children in the absence of their parents. I'm sure the parents pay her well to look after their children and they depend on her to feed them and to take care of their needs while they are away at work.
If not for the surveillance camera installed in their home, the parents would never have known how their children are abused in their absence, by someone whom they had entrusted to look after them.
Watching the video made me not only angry and sick but it also aroused murderous feelings in me. I wanted to treat the maid just the way she had abused the child. Worse, I wanted to put her behind bars with a whipping sentence and to throw away the key to the jail!
I then realised that such feelings in me put me in her category as well!! But then, how can one not be affected by the sight of a helpless, innocent toddler being abused so violently by someone who is supposed to take care of her? Even if the child had dirtied the floor or wet herself or got into a tantrum ( these are just suppostions as the video doesnt show what the poor child had done ), she doesnt deserve to be abused the way she was.
This must be the reason why my cousin in the UK, when his children were born, arranged for his parents and his parents-in-law to take turns to be there to look after the children while he and his wife were at work. He was very lucky to have both sets of parents agreable to such an arrangement. Each couple stayed there for six months.
Another college mate also did the same for her son when he had his family. She and her husband and the other set of parents also took turns to go to Singapore to look after the baby, even though their son had a maid. After seeing this video, my friend's son was wise in asking his parents and his wife's parents to make the trip and stay there to supervise the maid so that there would not be an opportunity for abuse. Likewise, my daughter stays with me and my husband and I have been looking after her children ever since they returned to the Land below the Wind. This was to prevent any kind of abuse, physical or emotional.
Abuse in any form will deform the child and retard his/her development. It will leave a scar on the child's soul and mind. Fear and insecurity will be constant companions in his/her existence. Yet many parents have no choice but to depend on maids to look after their child when they go to work. Not many have parents who are available to help them out. Perhaps sending their young to creches is an alternative. There will be other staff and this will be a deterrent to abuse. Other children in the creche will also provide companionship in play and this would stimulate the children and the interaction among them will make the creche a more amenable environment than the home where the maid, in the absence of the parents, is lord of the house and the children are at her mercy.
Here is the link.
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I'm not sure if you can download it to watch.
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