I received an email containing a list of do’s and don’ts for this year and I’d like to share some of the more interesting points with you.
Top of the list is this:
“Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Life is a school and we are here to learn. The problems are part of the curriculum and they appear and fade away just like the algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.”
There are times when one can hear “ It’s life. One’s life is different from another’s” as translated from “Chit lang chit lang eh miah”. We are on earth to learn lessons failing which we will return in another life to learn all over again until we master the lessons that we have to learn. In the New Age books this idea has been put forth whereby life is a continuous learning journey of the soul.
“Don’t have negative thoughts and don’t worry about things over which we have no control. Instead, focus on the positive.”
This is a very positive and encouraging point as many of us are prone to negative thoughts thereby trapping ourselves in a cycle of negativity. It would be to our advantage to focus only on the positive and to remove ourselves from the vicinity of people who are negative. Stick with positive people and you will find a difference in yourself. Negative people are killjoys and will also kill your joy of life.
“Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.”
It’s good if you can stand back and laugh at yourself. Wallowing in self pity will get you nowhere and you could lose your friends. When you moan and groan about your situation, you can drain your friend’s energy and she will feel depleted. Small wonder that she will no longer accept your invitations to meet up.
“Your job won’t take care of you when you fall ill. Your friends will, so keep in touch.”
I think I will have to qualify “friends” because they are so many types of friends: true friends who have been tried and tested and still stand by you, those who are fair-weather friends only when things are good and they can get something out of you, those who are just nodding acquaintances and those who profess to be your friend but back-stab you all the while. Only your true friends will come and help you when you are in need. So if you know who they are, never lose touch but keep in close contact.
Be there for them as they will be there for you. If you have more than a handful of such friends, count yourself as extremely lucky.
There is more to share but that will be the next chapter as I think there is a lot for you to chew on here.
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