All is Not Lost

Change is the only constant in our lives. Nothing remains static. There are changes every day, minor or major and we flow along with whatever comes. By and large, we accept the changes if there is no choice. For example the increases in the price of consumer goods and fuel have to be accepted.

However big changes in our lives will change us.

For instance if you have been diagnosed with a terminal disease, you will most likely be devastated. Whatever you had been thinking about, before the diagnosis, whatever you care about, all these will change in the face of the future facing you.
Being human, the natural reaction is “Why me?” “What did I do to deserve such a fate?”
Depression follows and the person often loses the will to fight and consequently the disease overtakes him and an early demise follows.

However, is there an alternative? What if, faced with such a situation, you accept the diagnosis as the doctor is an oncologist but you refuse to be cowed. You are determined to remain optimistic. You are confident that you can fight and win. With such a mindset, half the battle is won.

It has been proven that people who have positive mindsets have a better chance of survival.

If you have lost your dreams, because of an unfortunate accident, will you throw in the towel completely and wallow in self pity?
You can always “dream a new dream” according to C.S. Lewis. It’s how you respond that will make the difference.

When dreams are shattered, you can become resentful and bitter, curse the situation you are in and the cause or you can look forward and find another dream which could turn out to be bigger and more meaningful.
All you have to do is to reframe the situation or setbacks in a positive light.

Ask the following questions:

What can be good about this? What can I learn from this that will benefit not only me but also other people? What can I do to turn this to my advantage?

Once you begin to think in this way, you will see the situation in a different light and you will experience a different outcome than if you remain bitter and rail against fate. It is better to focus on what you can be than what might have been. You will realise that all is not lost and in time you will realise your new dreams.

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