If Only…
These are the saddest words one can utter. Don’t you think so?
Just think back of any experience you’ve been through at the end of which you uttered or thought about these two words.
“If only I had not given him permission to ride his bike to school, he would still be alive…” were the words uttered by the little boy’s mum, after he was knocked down and killed by a school bus.
“If only I had said no, I would not be in this mess now…” could also be another person’s experience. For example, you had some money and a friend begged and cried, asking you to lend her the money. You knew well that this friend already has a reputation for borrowing money and a poor record of returning the loans, yet your soft heart gave in and you lent her the money. Now you yourself are in need of money and you asked your friend to return the money you lent her. She came up with another sob story and deep in your heart you know you have to kiss goodbye to your money. If only…. You repeat over and over again but to no avail..
If only I had not made the wrong decision…… but how do you know at that time, whether or not it was the right or wrong decision? Hind sight is always 20/20.
Some say that once you’ve made a decision, you should stick to it, regardless of whether it was the right or wrong one. But once you make a decision, can you undo it? Let’s say, if you have sent in your resignation letter and it has been accepted, can you go back and say you have changed your mind ?
Some decisions can be reversed but mostly, it can’t be done. There is then the rest of your life to regret over it. This is especially true in relationships.
Once you have damaged a relationship whether by deed or words, it will never be the same again. You can patch up but the cracks will still be there. There will be a certain degree of reserve, a holding-back or you may feel that you have to be very careful about what you say and do each time you want to open up. This makes it hard for both parties and the relationship will die a natural death.
Worse still, if the other party is no longer around for you to even try to make amends…. if he has passed on…. I know that when one is young, one tends to make a pact with one’s friend saying
“ If you die first, you must come back and tell me what it’s like.”
In life, does this ever happen? Yes, you may have dreams of that person, you may feel a presence, but there is no communication. Perhaps being in different dimensions, the communication is not possible. On the other hand, there could be communication but we can’t receive that transmission as the airwaves, so to speak, are different.
I’ve had dreams myself and there was some form of communication but all too soon the dream ended, with more frustration at my end… with more “if onlys”.
Some people believe that mediums can communicate with loved ones on the other side but how far this is authenticated, is anyone’s guess. There are many charlatans about and one doesn’t like to be made a fool and lighter in the wallet.
More on mediums when next we meet…
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