Missing Someone is Painful

Have you ever missed someone so much that you actually feel physical pain?

A piece of music, the words of a song, a picture….any of these triggers memories of that missing person and tears spring unbidden to your eyes. Do you recognize this situation? Have you experienced it?

It doesn’t have to be death that separates you and your loved one. It can be geography if you live in different parts of the world. However, this is not a permanent separation because you know that you can always meet up, time and finances permitting.

It can be a breakup of your relationship. If it is a longstanding relationship of more than a couple of years, the pain can be sharp and unbearable.


There are many reasons for breakups. Incompatibility even after a few years, a third party enters the relationship, disputes, misunderstandings, etc., etc. The list goes on.

Walking away from a relationship is hard to do but many have done it.

Some have not looked back but moved on while others may have decided to give it another try. They will have to work out their differences and resolve the issues that lead to the breakup.

However, death is final. There’s no way to hit the “rewind” button to give yourselves a second chance. The separation is forever and it is a shattering experience, especially if you have unresolved issues. This is what makes it so hard. This is when you feel a part of you died along with that loved one.

You grieve, you hurt, you feel the unkind cut of losing that person so unexpectedly, without the chance to even say goodbye. For death comes when you least expect it.

Can you come to terms with this loss? The cliché says that time will heal all wounds. Maybe, maybe not. It all depends on you. Memories will linger, some will fade, some will be cherished and be indelible. It is good to remember the good memories and to forget the hurtful ones.

However, if death is not in the picture and you feel you want to salvage your relationship but do not know how to go about it, allow me to make a suggestion. This will help you in more ways than one and you will relish the magic of making up with your loved one.

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